It is how you live an authentic life free from burnout. It is the reason you feel instant chemistry with some people but not others. It is the key to lasting relationships. It is the art of masculinity and femininity. It is The Intimate Instinct.

Our Philosophy

  • Our distinct wants and needs as men and women can be tied back to the physical ways our brains are wired and the concept of masculine and feminine energy.

  • Every human, regardless of gender, embodies both masculine and feminine energy. And every relationship relies on a strong polarity between two people’s individual energies—the whole opposites attract thing.

  • Modern society is struggling to integrate both energies in a healthy way. When the gap between the masculine and feminine narrows or becomes confused, personal well-being and relationships struggle, leading to a variety of mental health issues and weakened intimacy.

  • We want to bring back all the good parts from more traditional relationships while honoring all of the progress we’ve made towards gender equality. We believe that each gender has its own unique strengths and skills, and that we should embrace rather than deny these differences. We use science, data, history, pop-culture, personal experience, and more to teach men and women how to become both the best versions of themselves and the best partners.

Danielle

Founder

I fell in love with the masculine/feminine dynamic as I fell out of love with an ex. My then relationship, as well as my self-esteem, eroded over the course of many years until the point that I was cheated on.

During my healing journey, I came across this concept and suddenly all the “why me?” self-victimizing thoughts, as well as the ugly resentment I was holding, cleared. And then, when I realized that the overall imbalance of masculinity and femininity in my life not only explained my relationship but also things I was experiencing on a personal level—lacking a feeling of belonging, extreme corporate burnout, generalized anxiety—I became absolutely hooked.

Fast forward a few years, I now combine my background in psychology with my passion for community building and teaching, on a topic I care deeply about. I can’t wait to discuss The Intimate Instinct with you!

FAQs

  • Masculinity and femininity is an energy or an outlook, each having their own typical characteristics. Every person has both energies within them at all times. Masculinity is one pole, at the opposite end of the spectrum from femininity. Personal well-being is at its best when you primarily embody one of these energies, and relationships are at their best when your partner embraces the opposite energy as you.

  • The short answer is no. All people have masculine and feminine energy. But because men generally tend to thrive in their masculinity, and women generally tend to thrive in their femininity, these terms are often associated with gender. Since both genders have both energies, and no two people are the same, our mission is to help each person understand how to master their use of both energies in a way that works best for them.

  • The group is free only for our first cohort—that is, the first 10 women and 10 men who are accepted into the program. It is expected that these people will provide thorough feedback throughout the program as well as a review at the end of it. After our first cohort ends, there will be a membership cost.

  • Our first cohort will be for 10 weeks. Each of our groups meet once a week, which means that each group will have 10 sessions.

  • When you submit an application to join our group, it automatically puts you on the waitlist. We review each application to make sure that your goals align with ours, as we want to curate tight-knit groups of people. That being said, we limit our group size to maximize the amount of dialogue that can take place in each session. We only have 10 spots available per group, so if your application is accepted but we’ve already reached the group size cap, we’ll keep you on the waitlist and reach out as we begin to schedule a new group.

  • Absolutely! Exploring the masculine/feminine dynamic and gender roles is something you do for yourself. If your partner has a similar philosophy, they should apply to join the complimentary group.